Pregnancy often comes as a total surprise to a young man who believes that sex is a leisure activity that does not need to be tied to commitment. Pregnancy raises many questions e.g. is the baby his? Why wasn't she taking better precautions? How can he commit to financially and emotionally supporting a child when he hardly knows the mother? If he is very young it may be that he is not in the position to financially support himself. For these reasons, and many other like them, the knowledge that abortion is legal, free, confidential and the girl has right to choose, means that he considers his duty to be supporting the girl in her decision to abort and being there when she goes to the clinic. Many men in later years express regret and shame at their selfish behaviour, and recognise that they hardly gave a thought to the death of their child.
A man who saw pictures of an aborted baby shared that he had encouraged his girlfriend to have an abortion when they were in their teens. The relationship ended soon after, and the girl had a lot of problems which he was afraid to admit might have had anything to do with the abortion. It was only years later when he had a wife and children that he was able to recognise how unfeeling and callous he had been, he expressed how horrified and ashamed he was of his behaviour then.
“He can move on with “HIS LIFE” unhindered by family or child. He knows that he has lost a child, but for now that is perceived by him to be a blessing.” http://www.menandabortion.net/index.php/2008/04/01/stealth-dads/
You can pray
There is no excuse for me Lord, I was a father and I did not protect my baby or the mother of my child. I am ashamed, it has taken me so long to look honestly at what happened. I accept that I cannot really understand what suffering I caused by my selfishness. It is painful for me to admit these things, but I don't know how to continue knowing that I behaved so harshly to those I should have protected. Please forgive me. My involvement with that girl caused only harm – take pity on me Lord and give her blessing and healing. I have never looked on my baby's face, but I have to trust that you are keeping my little one safe. I'm reaching out to you, please have mercy on me.