About The Peacheys
Colin and Pauline have personal experience of the heartbreak and trauma that abortion can bring, the years of denial, the anniversary grief and the loss of self respect. We have struggled with relationship problems, with difficulties expressing our feelings, with depression and despair. We have thrown ourselves into work to avoid thinking, made crazy choices and hurt each other; and yet somehow we have survived. Now divorced we have the joy of recovering our friendship, of remembering why we chose each other all those decades ago and of being healed for the pain that threatened to destroy our family.
Colin with 7 Week Living Embryo Board
Post Abortion Support for Everyone (PASE) is a response to the damage in the lives of so many people when one pre-born little human is aborted.
The death of a baby has always been recognised as an especially sorrowful event, and where that death happened before the child had come to term – commonly called a miscarriage – many people acknowledged that it was very helpful to mark the passing of even the littlest human with a ceremony. This was not just a mark of respect for the little one, but also helped the mourning process which is such a necessary part of recovery for the family.
However abortion, such a commonplace event now, gives no importance to this process and denies society the ability to accord the dead baby any respect or dignity. This hinders recovery from what everyone agrees can be an extremely traumatic event, by encouraging denial and a callous disregard for human emotions.
PASE believes that we deserve better.
Pauline with 10 Week Aborted Aborted Foetus Board In Background
This website does not offer counselling, but we will respond to you if you need someone to listen to you.
We believe that recovery from the effect of abortion is not a quick fix. Although we acknowledge that a weekend or even a weeklong retreat can be very helpful, in our experience there is a longer journey that needs to be taken.
The death of a baby has always been recognised as a particularly sorrowful event. When that death happened before the child had come to term – commonly called a miscarriage – many people acknowledge that it is very helpful to mark the passing of even the littlest human with a ceremony. It is not just a mark of respect for the little one but also helps the mourning process, such a necessary part of recovery for the family.
However, Abortion, such a common event now, takes away the importance of this process and denies society the ability to accord the dead baby any respect or dignity. Recovery is therefore hindered from what everyone agrees can be an extremely traumatic event, by encouraging denial and a callous disregard for human emotions.
Post Abortion Support for Everyone (PASE) is a response to the damage in the lives of so many people when one pre-born little person is aborted
Abortion affects so many people:
- Children who have been subjected to incest or ongoing abuse will have scars that can (and in so many cases do) last decades. When they
are further violated by abortion and returned to continuing abuse instead of being rescued the wounds can run very deep.
- Teens who are lied to and pressured or by those they should be able to trust to protect them and their baby. The abortion so often
heralds years of confusion and distress.
- Victims of the sex industry, often trafficked, enslaved, and forced to endure rape and abortion with no mercy shown to them.
- Men and women in a stable relationship who feel they are not ready yet, or whose family (they feel) is complete.
- Men and women whose job involves them directly or indirectly with the abortion industry.
Abortion lingers. The effects continue down the years with anniversary grief, self-reproach, self-harm, (often through drink or drugs) suicide attempts, and difficulty in sustaining relationships. Women can lose their self-respect and feel they are not worth anything good. The burden of guilt can be overwhelming. The desire to be helped is at war with the need to hide the truth and the doubt that there is anything that can help.
The abortion act passed in the UK in 1967 has left so many women struggling to come to terms with their thoughts and emotions and, as many men.
The experience of abortion, in many cases, brings isolation and confusion. This is especially so for the parents of the aborted baby. The accepted wisdom is that the kindest thing is to preserve anonymity by 'outsourcing' the care to a professional counsellor. This can be helpful but works best when there is a group of kind friends to give support and care over a longer period. Issues that seem to have been dealt with can come back in a new guise.
- To increase the understanding of how abortion affects those involved and encourage everyone to be brave enough to be open to helping
their friends through to healing.
- To facilitate good helpful healing relationships that will give post-abortive peoples the support and care to assist them in their
- To help those affected by abortion see clearly what they have done, and choose a healthy way to recover.
Pauline with her Ask Me About It Board